Month: September 2022

We don’t always take the time to take care of our privacy and our sexual habits are no exception to this rule.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to determine if your sex life is going well! Are you satisfied right now? Could you improve your erotic routine? It’s always a good time to do some soul-searching.

1. What place does sexuality take in your life as a couple?

Many end up forgetting the importance of healthy sexuality in their relationship dynamics . And that does not mean that sexuality must be ultra active, no,the sexuality of your couple must be… to your couple’s taste! Obviously, this must take into account everyone’s wishes and respect their limits. If your sexual relations no longer stimulate you, or if you feel that sex could take a greater (or lesser) place in your intimacy, perhaps it is time to open the dialogue with your partner.

How relevant is sexuality to your life as a couple? What evolution do you want to give it? Talking about sex and redefining its place in your couple dynamics can give it a stimulating role… if that is your goal. A word of advice: it’s always better to talk about sex outside the bedroom.

2. When was your sex life most fulfilling?

Self-esteem has a definite impact on our sexual fulfillment , as does our partner and the dynamics we have with him or her. It is interesting to take a look at the different times when you can claim to have experienced great sexual satisfaction. How can you promote these? Of course, we must not fall into the trap of idealizing the past. Rather, it should be used to build a happier present.

Moreover, the same exercise is valid for masturbation : at what period and in what way did you manage to give yourself fulfilling solo pleasure? Sexuality is above all a relationship with oneself.

3. How is your sexual satisfaction determined right now?

Is it essential for you to reach orgasm to be sexually satisfied ? And if so, how? What caresses are synonymous with 7th heaven for you? What context encourages you to let go? Maybe right now you need an evening where you and your partner take time to explore each other. Maybe it’s also a change of atmosphere that you need: a short stay away from home and responsibilities to let your libido ignite… Finally, it could also be that in this moment sexuality is not important or even a priority, and above all do not feel guilty, it is completely normal. Listen up!

4. Is masturbation your greatest source of satisfaction?

Do you prefer your sessions alone rather than those with a partner? Do you think you are the only one capable of meeting your needs? Do you let go more easily when you are alone? Do you find it difficult to cum under the gaze of your partner? Know that it is really valid if you answered yes to all these questions.

It’s normal that you often get bigger orgasms from masturbation, basically because it’s so much easier to focus on your own feelings – you’re never better served than by yourself! The winning recipe is not always attainable with his or her partner. The best way to improve couple sex ( or with more people !) is to verbalize what gives pleasure when you’re ready and within your own limits. In short: there is always room for improvement – and it goes both ways!

5. Which positions give you the most pleasure?

Again, it’s about communication. Do … Read the rest

Generally speaking, the view of sexuality is heteronormative , that is, it is based on the traditional sexual scripts of heterosexual relationships that involve penetration (of a penis into a vagina). For many, a sexual relationship can only be considered complete if the act of penetration takes place , ideally with ejaculation.

However, many of us don’t want penetration – all the time or sometimes – for very valid reasons: preference for other sex acts like foreplay, pain, low arousal, fear of injunction to performance, etc.

It’s hard to counter the idea that penetration is essential, since that’s how sexuality has been presented for a long time, and therefore, learned by most as they grow up.

Moreover, this conception of a sexual relationship does not take into account pleasure other than that of the penis, just like the fact that not everyone is heterosexual. Surprise! Of course, queer people and straight women can enjoy penetration, but it would be sad to leave out all the other joys of sex.

There are therefore several problems in this vision that we have of sexuality .

First of all, it’s important to know that there is no one action or thing in particular that defines what can or cannot be considered a sexual act. The only thing that is needed is the consent of everyone involved . Otherwise, whether it’s fondling, oral sex or otherwise, there are no standards to follow .

And let’s not forget, people with vaginas don’t just reach orgasm through penetration. The key to ecstasy for these people is clitoral stimulation , which can be done externally as well as internally. As these notions are not generally presented in the sex education system, we often forget this clitoris!

Solo sexuality should also be valued . We tend to completely put aside masturbation , while it is a privileged contact that we have with ourselves. And guess what! Most women masturbate… without involving the penetration of their fingers or a toy into their vagina!

Indeed, other people do not necessarily have to be involved to consider that one has a sexuality! Just because someone is single and not sleeping with anyone doesn’t automatically mean they don’t have a sex life .

Sexual practices are varied and you have the right to give less space to penetration (or any other act that does not suit you) freely. Your sex life should look just like you!… Read the rest